Mardi Thomas Goodman

In the journey of life we aren’t supposed to see through people, we’re supposed to see them through”

Mardi has been a therapist for over 40 years and is currently relationship consulting. She is also the author of “What Your Mother Never Told You About Love, Sex and Power: The Inner Power Process.” She is one of Dr. Jodi’s greatest mentors and a dear friend.

In this video Mardi and I shed light on loneliness and ‘the lonely spot’ in all of us. Loneliness has become a global epidemic that no one is exempt from. We all feel lonely at times. No one is alone in this! We explore ways in which the shame surrounding loneliness can be lifted, finding your self worth and how finding your people who accept you can help you.

Key Takeaways:

• Loneliness is a global epidemic. Anxiety, depression, and addiction - are at an ALL-TIME high.

• Everyone struggles with some kind of loneliness at some time - especially when they don’t feel connected emotionally

• Every child - even with the BEST parents - suffers from loneliness

• When people don’t want to look at their lonely spot - they fill it with - ADDICTIONS, WORK, BUSYNESS!!

• NO ONE WANTS TO TALK ABOUT IT 

• We want to show you that we are all the same, it’s the human condition to feel alone, scared, anxious

• How do we teach our kids how to sit with discomfort

• In the presence of  emotional connection - human beings thrive - the primary need here - we matter, we are important, that someone has our back, that someone needs us, that someone cares, that someone values us for no particular reason

• Why at such a young age do we start to feel lonely?

• Research - what drew people out of anxiety depression addiction - I understand, I am here - EMPATHY. Sitting with people you are close to and offering that connection.

• We want to walk with and sit with our children - not FIX, or DIRECT

• Shame gets in the way of connection

• Mardi exploring her own loneliness - it never made sense because on paper she had “family, husband, friends”, job, all the things, but still felt lonely

• When I came out of the shame that I had the loneliness - I was able to start to explore healing it

• We need to stop judging it, stop judging the shame

• When parents are uncomfortable with their own feelings - they cant sit with their kids feelings

• PRESENCE/EMPATHY - I am here for you, I love you - stop fixing, 

• Whats this loneliness teaching me vs. why am I so fucked up,

• Self care, Reaching out, Loving awareness

• How to honour feelings, and surround yourself with people who get it, 

• Don’t call them positive or label emotions - just emotions

• Lets look IN instead of out and stop judging emotions

• The happy culture is a state it’s not a goal 

• Knowing your story - knowing your past, traumas, triggers that still affect you to this day

• Once you know your story - your not hustling for your worthiness

• Find your self worth - see it change everything

How to learn more about things mentioned in this episode:

My previous interview with Mardi

Mardi's Book

Quotes to Fill Your Soul:

“In the journey of life we’re not supposed to see through people, were supposed to see them through” Mardi Thomas Goodman

“I am loving awareness” Ram Dass

“Don’t even call them negative emotions. As soon as you call them negative emotions your sending a connotation that they’re bad. All emotions are good, just call them emotions.” Joe Goodman

“You either walk inside your story, or your stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness” Brene Brown

“The purpose of life is to find your gift and the meaning of life is to give it away” Pablo Picasso

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